The stigma with consulting an intuitive and what you can do to break free

3 min read
14 Feb

A very happy Valentine's day to all of you. I posted a graphic this morning reminding people to fall in love with themselves. It sounds contrite, but self-love is so important. Make sure you do something nice for yourself today as well as those you love. 

Usually I let my blog posts come to me through the day. Whether it is being inspired by a Question, a Reading, or an Experience, it's been important for me to let the message come to me. However today, I knew exactly what I wanted to blog about, and it's something I want to have an open conversation about. 

Is there a stigma with consulting an intuitive or psychic? 

Growing up, I was always interested in those that seemed to have a sixth sense. Even before I knew what my abilities were called, I was drawn to people that seemed to have a connection that others weren't privy to. It was a bit mysterious. I loved the idea of having a connection to heaven. For me, it was proof that life existed after this. Being raised catholic, that was a huge thing to prove. I think growing up, we all were raised with stigmas of what heaven is or isn't, what God is or isn't, and what is or isn't possible. It limits us, and if we don't break free, we become parents that further the cycle and limit our children. I know people aren't going to agree with that, and it's okay. I want to know what you think. 

Can you have a strict religious belief and still believe in intuitives and psychics?

 The scientist in my says we first have to define what an intuitive and a psychic is. So, let's do that now and clear the air. 


(All from Merriam-Webster online)

1.known or perceived by intuition : directly apprehended had an intuitive awareness of his sister's feelingsb: knowable by intuition intuitive truthsc: based on or agreeing with intuition intuitive responsesmakes intuitive sensed: readily learned or understood software with an intuitive interface

2: knowing or perceiving by intuition

3: possessing or given to intuition or insight an intuitive mind.

Okay, Merriam-Webster. I'll bite. 


1. quick and ready insight

2a: immediate apprehension or cognition

b: knowledge or conviction gained by intuition

c: the power or faculty of attaining to direct knowledge or cognition without evident rational thought and inference

Okay- that definitely defines my abilities. So far so good. Now let's see how they define psychic. This should be good. 


1. of or relating to the psyche : PSYCHOGENIC

2: lying outside the sphere of physical science or knowledge : immaterial, moral, or spiritual in origin or force

3: sensitive to nonphysical or supernatural forces and influences : marked by extraordinary or mysterious sensitivity, perception, or understanding



Definition of psychic (Entry 2 of 2)

1a: a person apparently sensitive to nonphysical forcesb: MEDIUM sense 2d

2: psychic phenomena

So now that we've defined both, I still don't understand what the big deal is. Maybe it's because I am intuitive. Maybe it's because I like to think I have an open mind about things, but "quick and ready insight" doesn't sound so mystical and scary. Merriam Webster defines psychic as "lying outside the sphere of physical science or knowledge." To me that just means science hasn't been able to explain it. Yet.  

Are we afraid of what we don't understand? 

It's okay to be afraid. I sure as heck was. I didn't wake up one day and was okay with my abilities. They scared the heck out of me for many, many, years. The first time I smelled cigar smoke soon after my grandfather passed, I thought I was going crazy. The first time I had a "spirit" answer me back, I freaked the F out. (With a capital F) I remember praying to God asking that I didn't see anyone, because I was already freaked out enough by the information I seemed to know in my head. 

So, acknowledge your fear. Embrace it. Say, "I'm freaked out by Nancy's (other others) abilities. I don't know what she does, I think it's evil. I can't explain what it is she does. I'm afraid if I talk to her she's going to know things I don't want her to know" 

(For the record, it's not like I look inside your head and see all of your skeletons in your closet. I see what God wants me to show you, and what you are open to. It's also always, always, confidential. I don't share details of any of my readings with anyone. ) 

Once you've acknowledged what you are so afraid of, it's time to let that crap go. 

"I accept that I don't understand what intuitives do. It's okay to not understand" 

Is there a stigma with consulting an intuitive or psychic? I sure as heck think so. One thing that I really want to do is break that stigma. I don't want you to be afraid of talking to me because of either your own fears, or what other people think of you. 

It's interesting. I posted on Facebook a few days ago and opened myself up to the world with my abilities. People that I thought would have completely rejected the idea of my abilities have contacted me and told me about their own family history, or related a story to me. I love that. I love that I have a connection to people that I only knew as one way. Now I see them in a whole new light, just as they see me. 

My point is, you'd be surprised what people will think if you tell them you consulted someone. Especially if that someone is totally non-mystical, someone that trips and falls like everyone else. Someone like me. 

I'm leaving you once again, with a choice. 

You can either let fear and doubt take hold of you, allowing others opinions to influence your own. 


You can decide for yourself what talking to an intuitive is like. 

And then,

You can share about your experience and break the darn stigma. There are people out there that need a hand, they need the courage to jump. We just have to be willing to take off the mask. 

I'm sending everyone love this Valentine's day. If you have any questions or comments, I'm always here.

With love,


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